List of 5 things I left behind in 2023 because 2024 is the year of prioritizing myself!
I do not do New Year’s resolutions anymore, and I haven’t in years. However, I do set goals with direct plans on what I need to do to accomplish these goals. My focus for 2024 is letting go of everything toxic and prioritizing myself more. Here are the five things I left behind in 2023 and what’s to be expected of my unappolpgetic living jouney in 2024.
- Being “The Problem Solver”: Let’s clarify this. It’s my nature to help people, but in recent years, I’ve noticed that requests have shifted from “Can you do me a favor?” to “You need to do this”. The truth is, I don’t have to do anything, and I won’t do it anymore. It’s not my obligation to fix your problems. Instead, I’m prioritizing myself and my boundaries. If I can help, and more importantly, if I want to, I will. I will no longer sideline my needs and wants, not even temporarily.
- Toxic People/Situations: This one’s a bit tougher because, let’s face it, we’ll always encounter these. However, I am no longer available for the BS that accompanies such toxicity. In this scenario, two things will happen: you’ll either be completely ignored or put in your place ONE time. We don’t have time or energy for unnecessary toxic back-and-forth conversations that lead to nowhere. If you’re unhappy and trying to express that “misery loves company,” then direct your issues to whoever is making you miserable. My household and I are not the dumping ground for your negativity, insecurities, control issues, and misery.
- Putting Myself Last: I didn’t even realize I was doing this until recently. Despite others not noticing it, I’ve been sidelining myself, always trying to help and fix those around me. In 2024, I’m putting myself first. If you’re okay with it, cool. If not, that’s cool too. I’ll live my life unapologetically the way I want to.
- Guilt: I constantly struggled with this. Thoughts like “What if I don’t help and something happens?” or “Am I doing the right thing for everyone?” always haunted me. 2024 me is like, eff it. Prioritizing myself, my wants, and my needs is not selfish. It’s self-care, something I haven’t been doing enough of. Everyone has had time to live as they wanted, and others will continue to do so. I shouldn’t feel guilty or be made to feel guilty for doing the same.
- Self-Doubt: No matter how much you do or accomplish, sometimes there’s still that nagging voice in your head telling you it’s not enough, you’re not doing it fast enough, there’s not enough time. I never compete with others; my biggest competition is the voice in my head that sometimes tells me I can’t or that I’m in over my head. While this may sometimes be true, I also realize that I’ve accomplished a lot and should focus on those achievements rather than doubting myself.
2023 taught me many lessons, particularly about temporary people and situations. But most importantly, it taught me about myself. I’ve always tried to be authentically myself, but now, I also want to live my life authentically and unapologetically. I want to do what I want, when I want, without my own doubts or others’ expectations holding me back. We are all free to live the lives we want, and I intend to do just that!
I imagine I am not the only one who has at some point felt this way. My message to you is, surround yourself with people who nourish your soul. Do the things you want to do. Set your boundaries and stick to them. Be authentic and unapologetically yourself. Livew your very best life! Drown out the noise of anything or anyone that is trying to pour their toxicity on to you and become a replant to thier bullshit. This is going to be an amazing year for everyone who has woken up and realized that they too are imprtant!
Happy 2024 Besties !
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