Guess who’s back? I realize it’s been a while since my last blog post, but life has been hectic to say the least ! This isn’t the anticipated second part to my ‘how I manifested my life’ post – that one requires time, a luxury I’m running short of at the moment.
This past month has been a whirlwind, one of those periods where you’re forced to press pause on your plans because life is literally kicking your ass. If you’re here expecting some juicy chisme aka gossip about my life spiraling out of control or relationship drama, sorry to disappoint – that’s not the case.
Instead, I’m caught up in the festive frenzy. Ever noticed how the ‘most wonderful time of the year’ can drive people to the brink? The frantic shopping, deciding how and where to spend the holidays, and the sheer pressure of it all while juggling day-to-day responsibilities – work, school, side hustles, adulting! Here’s a fun fact: I just finished my Christmas decorating this week, and it’s okay. Don’t let society shame you for not doing it on Thanksgiving Day. It’s okay to get it done when you get it done.
I don’t know about you, but I’m running on fumes, and we still have some way to go before this seasonal madness is over!
This year, we’ve been indecisive about our Christmas Eve plans. Being Hispanic, it’s traditionally our day for family gatherings and festivities. To be honest, I just want to go to a nice restaurant, eat some good food, go back home, slip on my PJs, and watch holiday movies with the fam while we wait for Santa to visit our happy home.
I’ve reached a stage in life where I want to do things my way. If others wish to join, fantastic! If not, that’s fine too. I won’t change my plans or harbor any resentment. It’s time for us to create our own traditions, particularly if we have families of our own. We shouldn’t feel guilty about it. Our parents and grandparents had their time to establish their customs, and now it’s our turn.
This sentiment extends to all future holidays, including Mother’s Day. In the past, I’ve prioritized everyone else on Mother’s Day, often neglecting myself. My husband has been incredibly supportive, always making my special days memorable and encouraging me to prioritize my desires. The issue lies with me; I get so caught up in accommodating everyone that I end up stressed out!
I’ve reached a point where I refuse to force situations or relationships that don’t resonate with me. As this year draws to a close, I’ve let go of unnecessary baggage and intend to continue this trend into the new year. Part of this transformation involves learning to prioritize myself and acknowledging my feelings about specific people, situations, and topics without any guilt. I encourage you all to do the same. People often see this as being selfish, but that’s the opposite. If you take time to do things that make you happy, your loved ones will get the happy version of your true self.
Hey, here’s the thing: don’t sweat it. Do what you want, and put your needs first sometimes. It’s cool to make yourself a priority. If something doesn’t vibe with you, just say no. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. “No” is a complete sentence. Make your own traditions with your family and just enjoy your life. Stay happy!
Happy Holidays Everyone!
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