Besties, I’ve got the chisme, on how I went from Toxicity to Tranquility.

For my spiritual healers and enthusiasts, this one might interest you.

“An Unexpected Transformation: From Spirituality to Toxicity”

I’ll keep this first part brief. You’ll gradually get to know me better as you follow my blog. If you missed my last post, it’s got some interesting backstory. Check it out when you can! (HERE). Alright, let’s kick things off with a fun little fact – once upon a time, I was a completely different person! Can you believe that? I practiced yoga with an app, so I was by no means a pro, but hey, it worked for me. I would Journal and meditate daily. And I felt I was on the path to spiritual enlightenment. I am even Reiki One certified. However, an invisible shift occurred along the way, which I had no means of anticipating.

Have you ever dealt with a toxic situation or individual? Whether it’s a relationship, a friend an ex, or co-parenting. What no one mentions is that when you deal with toxicity, whether you realize it or not, it changes you. You, in turn, become a little toxic yourself. This is my experience anyway.

I became toxic in the way I responded or encouraged the response. It became well, if you want to compete with me, then I’ll compete with you. If you want to copy me, then I’ll do the same. Even as I type this, I realize how childish this behavior and my mentality became. Before this, I didn’t perceive it that way. I had the impression that I was standing up not just for myself but also for my partner against someone who was incredibly challenging.

So, the spiritual shut-off lasted about a year, maybe more, and I realize why now. The person I envisioned myself to be didn’t align with the person I had become, and the universe was letting me know it!

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“Embracing Change: New Directions and Full Moon Insights”

You know what’s been happening these past two weeks? I’ve felt this shift, like the universe is nudging me in a new direction. And guess what? I’m answering that call. How’s that for breaking out of my usual routine? Funny, thing is the universe will also tell you when it’s time to change.

This past weekend, the full moon ceremony beckoned me. An irresistible pull drew me to Despojito, and I followed my instinct by going there. It was by far one of the best decisions I have made lately. If you are local to Miami and have not visited, you should. It’s a cute little mystical, earthy shop with the cutest merch but, even better yet, the most amazing purest vibe. Trust me, you will not regret it. If you are not local, you are still in luck. You can check them out (HERE).

“Full Moon in Aries: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Personal Growth”

If you do not know, the full moon in Aries is about confronting and letting go of what holds us back, embracing our true selves, and breaking free from old patterns. It is a powerful astrological event where the moon is fully illuminated in the sign of Aries. It encourages assertiveness, passion, and acting toward our goals. This event promotes self-discovery and personal growth but can also bring intense emotions.

During this ceremony, there was, as there is always, a beginning meditation; the purpose is to ground yourself. I have done many meditations with some amazing people, but I have never been able to center myself and ground myself the way I did during this meditation. I was literally a tree; it was as if I was part of the earth, and it was part of me.

The downloads and messages I got were beautiful. I experienced visions during meditation like never before. The message resonated loud and clear – release what doesn’t serve you, making room for everything that does to effortlessly fall into place.

“Releasing the Past: Overcoming Toxicity and Embracing Authenticity”

This is what I realized: toxicity breeds toxicity. I had spent a lot of time and energy focused on this situation and this individual that it became part of an everyday thing, not every day, but you know what I mean. I talked to my friends about what I felt was their stupidity and their lack of common sense every time something happened.

This is what I notice now. Hindsight is 20/20, after all. My toxicity stemmed from my insecurities. Why did I care if that person copied something I did? The fear was, what if they do it better than me? I didn’t know that then, but I see it now. What I now realize is that who cares. I have my creativity and way of doing things; I am authentically me. What other people do or do not do is not my concern. Even if it’s about me, it’s not for me.

My life is beyond amazing. I am surrounded by real Friends and real family. I’m blessed with an incredible husband who is my rock. Our kids are happy and thriving. I’ve got this incredible group of people around me who’ve been by my side. They stuck with me through all those wild times I now call my ‘crazy moments.’ And now? They’re genuinely happy for me as I navigate this new transition. My circle is where my focus should be, and I should not disrupt that with thoughts on anyone or any situation that is not a part of that.

“Embracing Authenticity: Living My Best Life and Letting Go of Toxicity”

The truth is I don’t care what they do, what anyone says, or how they act. I am busy living my best life. There is a saying, “Often imitated but never duplicated.” We are all unique, and that’s hard to copy, so let them try. I will still be focused on the present and on myself.

Also, there is enough room in this world for all of us to win, even if we are doing similar things.

So, while I am not waving any white flags or offering friendship. I am releasing all the toxicity that came from my previous mindset. I’ll tell you this: it feels great. I’m feeling peaceful and happy. It’s as if I’ve just let go of everything that was blocking me, and I didn’t even know it was there! Crazy, right?

Will my future blogs dish out the chisme from my past experiences? Of course! However, while I write it, it will no longer be in a space of pettiness or spitefulness; however, it will still be funny. Because, like I said, I have stories for days!

I’ll leave you with this message from my own experience. Let go of that which you can’t control; the shift you will experience is unreal. It’s like the weight has been lifted, the blockages are gone, and you are ready for this new life experience. Focus on your real ones. Everything else is just noise.